Hi, I’m Sally Fries.

I am a mental health counselor with a license in New York State. I have a Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling from The University at Buffalo. I am currently pursuing professional certification in Sex Therapy through the Sexual Health Alliance.

My Approach to Therapy

Training and practicing Dialectical Behavior Therapy, I have learned the importance of balance between understanding and action in therapy. Both are equally vital to the processes of healing and growing.

Understanding includes:

  • Learning to recognize emotions 

  • Unpacking the the chain of events that have led to the present moment

  • Exploring the mind-body connection 

  • Learning to be curious and open-minded

  • Finding the source of pain or distress


Action in therapy includes:

  • Learning different ways to respond to emotions

  • Re-telling stories with less judgment and more compassion

  • Responding to the body’s signs and signals 

  • Changing or leaving behind unhelpful patterns 

  • Accepting or tolerating pain as an inevitable part of life

My Sex positive approach

Sex positivity is a growing perspective in health care fields and aligns with the World Health Organization's definition of sexual health. In a nutshell, to be sex positive is to acknowledge the tremendously positive and healthy aspects of engaging in sexual expression. Below are some additional sex positive perspectives:

  • Sex is natural, but there is no “normal”. Sexuality is incredibly diverse, and each person experiences sex and eroticism in a unique way.

  • Sex enhances our lives. Through sexual exploration, expression and eroticism, we can learn, grow and create a more meaningful life.

  • It is unethical and harmful to attempt to influence others to change or suppress their sexuality, sexual practices, desires, or identities to fit another’s values and perspectives on sex.